tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11955271.post695480069877515054..comments2024-03-08T01:48:00.413-08:00Comments on Austin to Africa, Brasil to the Bay: On Becoming DependentAli Ambrosiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00521627345210424042noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11955271.post-47190415322988149662010-09-04T21:43:16.913-07:002010-09-04T21:43:16.913-07:00~Alina - I really appreciate knowing that I'm ...~Alina - I really appreciate knowing that I'm in such good company regarding the "dependency struggle". I owe you an email...it's on my list. :)<br /><br />~Jody - I hope the move went well and that you are feeling somewhat settled in your new home. What was your career previously? I'm curious!<br /><br />~Brandie - It is a hard transition, especially - I believe - for women who have always been very independent (financially and emotionally). I realize that I'm in such a blessed situation, but it's definitely been an adjustment to embrace the idea of 'WE'...that you give, but you can also freely take.Ali Ambrosiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00521627345210424042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11955271.post-8316028427529014122010-09-03T07:49:32.490-07:002010-09-03T07:49:32.490-07:00Thanks for this post. I've always wondered wha...Thanks for this post. I've always wondered what it's like to be on the other side of independent and to be financially dependent on a partner. It seems that even with the 'right' person, this can be a hard transition. I guess like everything else, this too takes time to adjust to. Good luck and please keep up these wonderful, insightful postsBrandie {Out and About Africa}http://outandaboutafrica.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11955271.post-48432090813193755092010-09-02T19:34:16.913-07:002010-09-02T19:34:16.913-07:00I gave up my career so my husband could follow his...I gave up my career so my husband could follow his dream career and I also struggle with the guilt of adding costs while not contributing (I am doing MSc although slowly because we move so much). Such an internal struggle!<br /><br />It is hard, but you will be so much happier when you let go! <br /><br />UGh... been so busy moving that I have not read your blog in weeks... I have some catching up to do!Barticahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04325226406441790836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11955271.post-14965611281276561102010-09-02T13:17:58.165-07:002010-09-02T13:17:58.165-07:00This sounds so familiar! I've been employed si...This sounds so familiar! I've been employed since my second year in college (full time, lots of night shifts, generally a nightmare) and am used to be perfectly able to pay for my expenses. It's hard shifting your mind from I have to pay for everything to we have to pay for everything. Like you, I cannot seem to see the problem if for one month I am the one bringing in more money :)<br /><br />It takes some time, especially to people like me for whom a previous "our money" experience has left a bad taste, but you get there :)Alina Popescuhttp://wordsofabrokenmirror.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11955271.post-82404655035809210502010-09-02T11:57:52.656-07:002010-09-02T11:57:52.656-07:00~Rainbowlens - I'll definitely slow down on th...~Rainbowlens - I'll definitely slow down on the translations once classes start. I don't worry about maintaining my Portuguese because Rico and I speak it at home, and I'm at the point where I've spoken Portuguese for so long that I doubt I'll ever lose the language. I feel very lucky about my situation, make no mistake!<br /><br />~Jenna - Why am I not surprised that you understand? :)Ali Ambrosiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00521627345210424042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11955271.post-77021792997621790392010-09-02T10:40:39.796-07:002010-09-02T10:40:39.796-07:00I know what you mean. I find myself trying to tak...I know what you mean. I find myself trying to take on extra writing jobs to "justify" expenses that I'd always treated myself to in the past, like a manicure or a new top, because it somehow seems frivolous to be spending "his" or "our" money. And while not being allowed to have a job in Brazil isn't the end of the world, it definitely limits my ability to feel like I'm financially contributing to our marriage, which makes me feel like I really AM a "madame de Leblon!" Ack...--jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02613132276745441850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11955271.post-69679155621713482912010-09-02T08:00:19.639-07:002010-09-02T08:00:19.639-07:00Thanks for sharing Ali. Do you think you'll sl...Thanks for sharing Ali. Do you think you'll slow down on the translation assignments once you get in the thick of school? Do you worry about maintaining your Portuguese ability? I am so glad that you at least have the option to pursue your dreams professionally without worrying about financial stability IN a house that you guys bought IN California which to lower cost areas like Houston is amazing. Just continue to enjoy yourself.<br /><br />GemAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com